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Misconceptions in the LGBT community

Posted on December 22, 2012 at 12:25 AM



I've been debating on writing this blog for the past couple of days and decided that it was in everyone's best interest to put it up.  My first hope for this blog is that people realize that there is just as much judgment WITHIN our community as there is OUTSIDE of it. 


* For the purposes of this blog, masculine identified females will be referred to as studs in hopes of cutting down any confusion.


Misconceptions in the LGBT community.


The other day someone spoke to me in regards to "bisexual" studs and how it disgusted them for various reasons and how it was different for a fem to be bisexual versus a stud.  I was stunned to say the least, and for more than one reason.  That ideology alone is the reason why so many people in our community suffer.  The outside world that is against anything and everything LGBT already makes us feel as though there is no place for us in society, and to make matters worse, often times we do the same to bisexuals.  But wait that's not it...the same men & women that go to such extremes to express their disgust against bisexuals, are the same ones attending every rally for equality...the same individuals that scream "NO LABELS" are the same ones labeling bisexuals as an atrocity.


Let's just be real, we're women and some women like penetration...what's the big deal?  So a fem is allowed to enjoy penetration, but a stud is not? Hypocritical bullshit.  The extent in which people display their judgment is absurd and does nothing but cause the entire community to take 10 steps backwards.  It's really simple, if you don't like it, agree with it, or appreciate it, simply keep it moving.


And before anyone begins to point fingers, I am not bisexual, I am 100% lesbian and have absolutely no interest in men but I refuse to look down upon those that do because with me being a lesbian, I have felt ashamed, worthless, and alone on more than one occasion, all due to who & what I love and who & what I am.  I refuse to cause those same feelings and emotions in another individual because it's just too close for home and fuck it, if I am keeping it all the way real, who am I or anyone else to place judgment on another?!


I'm not so big to believe that this blog will make a dent in the endless black pit I like to call internalized prejudice, but hopefully someone will think twice before throwing out their next unnecessary, derogatory and hurtful comment.  While it may garner you a few fist pumps and cause your head to become way too big from all the attention, you just look dumb as hell at the end of it all. Lastly, if you do choose to continue disrespecting people based on their sexual preferences, please do not complain that in 2012 (almost 2013), we're still fighting for equality and acceptance.  You are no different than those that turn their noses up at us. 


Sincerely,

Maliyah

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3 Comments

Reply cali lili
12:58 AM on December 14, 2013 
WELL SAID!!!! I hope this magazine is still happening ... it's GOOD!
mizarebel says...
This is such a major issue and has been for quite some time. It breaks my heart and I'm tired of hearing such judgement and ridicule over something that does not effect anyone other than the parties involved. Things like this force you to re-evaluate who your enemies are. Come on people we've got to do better. We cannot cry out for equality If we don't view all of us under the rainbow as equals. There will be no unity, no progression, no respect if we keep knocking down our own. It's the same thing all over again.... you've got to fight "THE MAN" plus you've got to fight the "BROTHA MAN" SMDH this just makes me sick. When will we ever come together as a people?
Reply cali lili
12:57 AM on December 14, 2013 
This is an EXCELLENT article, and it comes from the heart ... then I noticed - the date on it ... i am hoping your publication plans are going well ... as this seems to be a truly nonjudgmental, intelligent, and ... heart driven place ... furthermore, i think ur magazine LOOKS better than many i have seen out there ... i really HOPE YOU DONT GIVE UP!! KEEP DOING THIS! : )) its GOOD!!!
Reply mizarebel
2:02 AM on December 24, 2012 
This is such a major issue and has been for quite some time. It breaks my heart and I'm tired of hearing such judgement and ridicule over something that does not effect anyone other than the parties involved. Things like this force you to re-evaluate who your enemies are. Come on people we've got to do better. We cannot cry out for equality If we don't view all of us under the rainbow as equals. There will be no unity, no progression, no respect if we keep knocking down our own. It's the same thing all over again.... you've got to fight "THE MAN" plus you've got to fight the "BROTHA MAN" SMDH this just makes me sick. When will we ever come together as a people?