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BLOG TALK RADIO - 08/06/12 3:02am
We decided to start using the BTR account..today we had our first test episode that actually turned into a great conversation so we posted it here. All of our blog talk episode will be posted on the Blog Talk link at the top of the page. Be sure to check there often for updates and Q&A sessions! The su
Team Lesbian's Updates - 08/03/2012 1:41am
Teamlesbians.com is really beginning to pick up steam and none of this could have been done without you all! Words cannot express how much we appreciate all of the love and support that we get from each and every one of you! We just want you to know that we are working super hard behind the scenes to make sure that the site stays up to date and interesting for all of the members. We're working on having new contests, bringing you interviews from prominent members of the LGBT community, and adding new features that will keep the site interesting and user friendly. If you have any problems please do not hesitate to let us know but again we thank you from the very bottom of our hearts for the continued support and love!
- Team Lesbians Staff
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Discrimination - Clint McCance - 10-29-10 || 8:15pm
Discrimination: The unfair treatment of a person or group on the basis of prejudice.
So yesterday, the news was filled with coverage on Mr. Clint McCance, the elected school board district member in Arkansas. McCance came under fire after making some disparaging and discriminative comments about gay and lesbian people after he was asked to wear purple for Spirit Day. McCance said: “Seriously they want me to wear purple because five queers killed themselves…I can’t believe the people of this world have gotten this stupid. We are honoring the fact that they sinned and killed themselves because of their sin”. McCance also said the only way he would wear purple is if they [gays and lesbians] all killed themselves.
When the news starting reporting on these comments left on his Facebook page, he did what so many others have done; he said that the comments were blown out of proportion and that he has a right to his own opinion.
I was disgusted to find that Mr. McCance (and I say Mr. loosely) could not be fired because he was an elected official; however, my heart was profoundly happy when I awoke this morning and learned that he is going to resign.
I don’t understand all of this…they used to say that children said the cruelest things but I am not sure about that anymore. Anytime you can wake up to hear so many disheartening comments made towards gay and lesbian students by the same person who is supposed to protect all children, it’s truly a wake up call. This is just sickening and the sad part is I have a distinct feeling that there is even more to come.
You don’t have to support US, you don’t have to support the way that we live our lives and you most definitely don’t have to “like” us…but we won’t stand to keep being disrespected much longer!
Lez stop the hate...10-05-10 || 1:56pm
This article is not to be confused with “clichés”. This happens to be a topic that I am very passionate about. There have been so many reports of suicides and hate crimes against several LGBT people lately. This is very saddening because this is nothing new; it’s just now getting the attention that it deserves. If the news says there have been 4 or 5 suicides in a month, we can surely bet that the actual number unreported is higher than that. WE have to do something…anything.
With that said….LET’S BE REAL. We face just as much hate within our OWN COMMUNITY as we do from outsiders. True enough, we won’t “like” everyone but that isn’t reason enough to “hate” others. The truth is that we as a LGBT community want others to accept us and to count us as their equals, as they should…but how can we truly expect this to happen when we, ourselves don’t accept everyone.
I won’t make this article long because Lord knows I am not trying to preach to anyone but if YOU feel me on this one…lets start being more caring, more kind and more understanding of each other. There are enough people judging us for us to be judging one another!
Little Girl Lost - Poem 08-19-10 || 5:29PM
A little girl lost, standing in the world alone,
Scared and tired, you could tell by her tone.
She was a sad soul, but still I loved her so.
I just wish she knew she always had somewhere to go.
A little girl lost with expectations left unfulfilled,
She gave in to the cynics, she lost her will.
Maybe if I would have told her I loved her
The sequence of events wouldn’t have occurred.
It’s as though I failed her, I missed all the signs,
So caught up in myself, I crossed the line.
It is my wish that this little girl lost will find her way,
Placed in another world only to my dismay
Shall she find her little piece of happiness, I will know…
We’re one in the same, connected by our souls.
August 17, 2010
Suicide, both attempted and successful, should NEVER be an option. There is always a choice even during the times when you feel as though all other options have been exhausted. There is ALWAYS someone who cares and whose world would be diminished without you in it. Nothing is that bad because nothing (besides death) is final. Things can ALWAYS be turned around. I am no psychiatrist, but I'll do my best to be here for ANYONE who needs help or someone to talk to! Just remember that God has a plan for you...he'd NEVER put you through something that you couldn't make it through and I am a living testament to that! Take care ladies and never feel alone or as if you have no one in your corner!
Proposition 8 - NOH8 08-05-10 || 12:24PM
Proposition 8 also known as the California Marriage Protection Act, is a ballot proposition and constitutional amendment passed in the November 2008, California state elections. A new provision “7.5 of the Declaration of Rights” was added to the California constitution stating that only marriage between a man and a woman is valid and recognized in the state of California. In short, prop 8 would change the California constitution, and prohibit the right of same-sex marriages.
This is America, so of course everyone has an opinion. Opinions are great for the most part, we have to have diversity and not everyone can or should think alike. With that said, I do not see the logic in “others” deciding that they have the right to decide who can and cannot be married [AND have their marriage recognized] in the United States of America.
I read this article, Mark Davis: Prop 8 judge substitutes his will for voters' (Please read, I’m sure you’ll be pissed off and disgusted too) and I realized that many arguments made over prop 8 (especially those for prop 8) are such elementary arguments. “If they [gays and lesbians] would have won, they would be happy and have the right to wed…but since they lost and we won it shouldn’t be overturned…the last decision made by the voters should stay” and blah blah blah [are you done yet?]. The fact is, regardless of the outcome now…if the LGBT people would have won in the first place we would STILL be back in court because the bitter people just won’t stop.
I’m not sure exactly why I am writing this article because ignorance isn’t going anywhere anytime soon. Gays and Lesbians (purple and yellow people too) should have the right to do anything that any heterosexual couple can do without fear of backlash. Let’s focus on some real issues like the violence rates increasing in the US or the rampant drug problems or even yet, let’s focus on our youth who are turning to both violence and drugs. STUFF THAT MATTERS. Yes, I am a lesbian…however, I am NOT screwing you – so why are you so concerned with who I choose to marry.
*Side Note* - For those that argue that the overturning of prop 8 will now have children (starting from kindergarten) being taught that gay and lesbian marriages are the same as “traditional marriages” [ a marriage is a marriage people, nothing more, nothing less] – GET OVER IT…I don’t believe that children should be taught about marriages and relationships [both homo and non-homo] that young anyway,…they’re children and will have to grow up soon enough anyway – let them be children and let their only worries be what “Barbie doll” or “Tonka truck” they’ll get for their birthdays hmmph. ALSO - just incase...I am NOT saying that children shouldn't be told about marriages at all, I just believe that they should be taught by their parents and/or loved ones, when they deem they're ready...
Having a Lesbian family...06-25-10 || 3:14pm
Topic from: This question was asked anonymously.
Interview with: @Wenlo1128 (via Twitter)
Having a family within the lesbian community seems to be a hot topic. It’s no secret that both lesbians and gays have had families; however, most times they’re not treated with the respect that they deserve. Raising a child is very hard work but raising that child within a lesbian household presents even more challenges ranging from unkind stares to asinine comments. Ignorance and prejudice is prevalent in all demographics; however when it comes to lesbians and gays, the straight community runs rampant with ignorance and prejudice.
Studies show that children who are raised in lesbian households have a lower amount of behavioral problems, not to mention that these children often score higher than kids in straight families on some psychological measures of self-esteem, confidence. The greatest finding thus far has been that children from lesbian households have been shown to perform better academically. Some of the most frequently asked questions and concerns from heterosexual people are; what are the possible negative effects on children from being raised in what they consider to be a non traditional home. The fact is that these questions hold no merit to the thousands of gays and lesbians that are or are planning to have a family.
Bottom Line: If people spent more time worrying about their lives as much as others, the world would be a much better place. It’s ok to have issues and concern but it’s important to keep an open mind…ignorance isn’t always bliss!
I conducted another interview with @Wenlo1128 from Twitter.
1. How long have you been with your girlfriend?
"We've been together 5 years strong! AND STILL GOINGGGG LoL =0)"
2. So…you and your girlfriend are raising your 1 year old niece? How did this come about (If I'm not being too personal)? (How cute!!)
"Well, to cut a long story short - My little sister is not capable of raising her at all. She has no motherly instincts what-so-ever. The father is not in the picture (he's what I consider a dead-beat). Please don't take this as bad-mouthing my little sister, but it hurts me to know that my own little sister really doesn't have any interest in her own child."
3. Do you foresee any obstacles in raising her in a lesbian household that maybe a "straight" couple wouldn't face?
"Not at all. Studies say that children who are raised by Homosexuals may do better than their peers. Interesting, huh? It doesn't matter if you're gay, straight, bi, purple, green, blue.... Children are children.. They all go through the "mile stones" the same way...teething, terrible twos and so forth! So in my opinion, it doesn't matter what sexual orientation you are, we are all human and WE ALL go through "rough times" in life!"
4. How do you deal with any negative comments made from outsiders?
"Well... I'm known as the feisty one in the relationship.... while she's more calm. She tells me to ignore them, which she is right, I should... But I just can't help it... I tend to go off! And I'm quick to whip out my bible, turn to Matthew - Chapter 7 Verse 2 (check it out) LoL! But that's me =0) God made me this way & I’m not changing for no one!"
5. Do you plan on talking to her about this when she gets older?
"Of course! Why should we keep it from her! God placed her in our life for a reason; He knew we would take great care of her!"
6. If you could change anything regarding your family, would you?
"Absolutely not! We go through our ups and downs, but it's all apart of life. We are family... We won't always get along... But we will always be there for each other! I love my family with my wife and I wouldn't change it for the world!"
"I have to be honest and say it's not easy raising a baby. It definitely drains you, especially after a hard days work. And might I add, it's expensive too! LoL! But it is worth coming home to Peanuh Butta (that's what we call her, lol) and seeing her smile & throw kisses at us! =0)"
You guys are beautiful together!!! Thank you so much for the interview!!!
"Touch-me-not" Studs...06-23-10 || 6:23pm
Topic from: @__BADDYELLA (via Twitter)
Touch-Me-Not Studs: Masculine/dominate females that do not like their partner to perform sexual acts on them.
So I’ve received a couple of requests to blog about “touch-me-not” studs. First I would like to say that I have nothing against touch-me-not studs; but as a proud lesbian, I want to touch my other half the way that she touches me. I love a woman and I love a woman’s touch and I want her to love mine too. The whole concept of not letting your girlfriend touch you is beyond me. Sex isn’t everything in a relationship, but the sexual connection found within a relationship runs deep.
It’s almost as if the touch-me-not stud’s mentality is that their girlfriends get fucked and they’re the ones that fuck them. I’m not sure if this is due to fear or preference. Maybe these studs have forgotten that they have needs and that if they give in, they just might enjoy it. Or maybe I am wrong altogether. Whatever their reasons are for holding back, the idea of being touched sexually seems to be wrong to them and makes them extremely uncomfortable.
I decided that I should not write this blog without input from a “Touch-me-not” stud. I did an interview with @jtownstud from Twitter. It goes as follows:
1. Why do you consider yourself to be a touch me not stud?
I don't feel comfortable being touch in intimate places…especially my breast it just makes me feel very weird. I also do not find an orgasm satisfying; it’s actually irritating to me.
2. Are you afraid that letting your girl touch you will result in you becoming less dominate?
No it’s not a dominance thing with me; it’s just something I prefer.
3. Have you always been this way?
4. Would you ever give in if your girl wanted to touch you sexually?
If I had been with the girl for years yes I may consider letting her touch me...but I highly doubt it.
Additional Comments: A lot of studs confuse being a touch me not because they feel that is what a stud is supposed to be, but that is not the case. It is perfectly fine to be touched if that is what you want. I just prefer not be touched sexually.So there you have it ladies…some insight on touch-me-not studs.
Cheating...06-21-10 || 6:11pm
Cheating: an act of lying, deception, fraud, trickery, imposture, or imposition.
I have been told on several occasions that cheating within the lesbian community isn't as prevalent as it is in the straight community. I completely disagree with this. I, myself have been cheated on twice and it hurt like hell. Not to mention that practically every lesbian friend I have has cheated or been cheated on in past relationships.
Cheating is the same regardless of the demographic. "Do lesbians cheat as much as men?" is not the question that needs answering, the question that truly needs answered is "Why do people cheat?" The answers don't offer much support to the individual that is being cheated on, but it can offer some insight on how to deal with the situation if they are ever faced with it again. Some people cheat because their needs aren't being met (I think this is the worst excuse possible), or because they have become bored, or maybe because they no longer want to be in the relationship [so leave then] or because they want to exact revenge. The overall point of this blog is that most of this can be avoided simply by talking to your partner about how you're feeling. Being a lesbian does not in any way, lessen the chances of being cheated on, but not having open communication with your partner does.